Do your advisors hate you?

25 04 2014

“It is not easy to be a pioneer – but oh, it is fascinating!  I would not trade one moment, even the worst moment, for all the riches in the world.” ~Elizabeth Blackwell

It’s not easy to be a good leader – pioneering the way to success.  Having to say the tough things when they need saying, and having to make the tough choices when they need making.  You can put off both, but you’re not doing anyone any favors.  And when a plan comes together, after a lot of tough decisions and hard work – oh, it is fascinating!

Think of someone in your life that you love dearly.  It could be a grandmother, an older sister, your dad, whoever.  Now, think back to a time when they had to give you a scolding.  Whatever sort of tough love it was, just think about that scolding and how you felt.  Now, imagine you have to give some other sort of tough love to a staff member.  They’ll feel uncomfortable, and so will you, likely.

Now think back to that loved one that gave you the tough love, and answer this question – Did they hate you?  Did they give that tough love just to embarrass you and make you feel like an unworthy person?  No?  So why would you think your staff would see you that way?  Tough love, given with the best of intentions, is never bad if given sooner rather than later.  Peel off the scab, and find the fresh skin underneath, so the healing can begin.

Speaking of Pioneer…


Rubes cartoons used with permission.




One response

12 05 2014

Very insightful post!

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