Don’t scratch that itch – talk about it.

15 10 2014

“It’s not refreshing where there is confusion or any kind of discomfort in a group that has to work closely together.” ~Kate Mulgrew

I recently returned from the annual Salmon Fishing pilgrimage with the brotherhood of 40 dudes that I fish with.  During one night’s festivities, one of my brothers told me about a problem he was having with another brother.  It was a small thing, magnified by alcohol.  I stood up and walked over to the other brother, and said “some of the guys here have a problem with X, how do we get past it?”.  He looked around, saw the empty chair next to brother number 1, sat down, and talked about it.  Everything turned out fine, with each brother understanding the other’s issue.

When leaders get a little feeling of discomfort, I recommend dealing with it ASAP.  That little itch will otherwise turn into a rash, then a bloody mess… Talk it through, explain what’s bothering you, and listen to the other’s side of the story.  It’s very unlikely  that they’ll have been doing it to bother you on purpose.  Once you understand their side, it’s so much easier to work closely together.  Going through tough times like that brings a team together more than just about any other motivator.

Speaking of Refreshing…


Rubes cartoons used with permission.




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