De-toxify your culture – stand up.

4 11 2014

“To bear with patience wrongs done to oneself is a mark of perfection, but to bear with patience wrongs done to someone else is a mark of imperfection and even of actual sin.” ~Thomas Aquinas

I’ve got to disagree with the first part, but I can wholeheartedly agree with the second part of the phrase.  I think that you should not bear wrongs either way.  When someone does something that wrongs you, hurts your feelings, insults you or otherwise “gets your back up”, a good leader will address that wrong – sooner rather than later.  Calling out someone who has harmed you as soon as possible after it happened gives them a chance to re-state what they meant in a less harmful way.  Often, you’ll find that maybe you misunderstood them, or took it wrong.  Maybe they had a poor choice of words, or simply spoke too quickly, without thinking.

On the other hand, when you see actual wrongs being done, be brave, and step up to take care of righting those wrongs.  Don’t let bad behavior or rudeness go un-checked.  When you do that, others will think that the behavior you let go un-checked is the norm.  That’s how cultures turn toxic.

Speaking of bears…


Rubes cartoons used with permission.




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