Everyone’s grief is different – understand that well.

13 03 2015

“Grief is the price we pay for love.” ~Queen Elizabeth II

Yesterday we lost one of our own.  Victor was a counselor who changed many people’s lives for the better over his years here in our corporate family. Victor was a minister, a beloved co-worker to many, and a family man.  It’s times like this when we should look back and see that all of our lives are full of meaning.  We touch so many people, and often change their lives for the better while we’re on this world.  When we leave, we hope that those who loved us can give each other the strength to get through the pain of loss.  While our spirits may be eternal, each of us is limited to a brief and beautiful window of life on earth.

As leaders, we need to understand that different people will all deal with loss differently at different times.  Some will want to deny it, and put their heads into their work. Some will be angry, and want to punch a hole in something, or snap back at the smallest of perceived slights.  Others will just need a hug, or need the time to be alone.  Do what you can as leaders to give your team what they need, at the time they need it.  Understand that grief moves through phases (denial – anger – bargaining/if only – depression – acceptance) at different times for different people, so accommodate these phases the best you can.  There is no “right” way to grieve.  Most of all, celebrate the lives of those that we lost, and celebrate the lives of those still with us.  As a team, as a family, we are indeed much stronger than the sum of our parts – but we are still made up of individuals, each of whom matters in their own right.

There will be no cartoon today.  In light of our loss, none appeared adequate nor appropriate.




One response

13 03 2015

Well said. I am sorry for your loss.

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