It’s my way, or the highway (for you, if you don’t listen better, leader)

21 07 2015

“In a controversy, the instant we feel anger, we have already ceased striving for the truth, and have begun striving for ourselves. ~ Buddha

This is a lesson I need to internalize better myself.  We should all have a healthy respect for other’s opinions, and when we are debating the correct course of action, we should do so in proportion to our facial features:  Since we have 2 ears and one mouth, we should probably listen at least twice as much as we talk.  I know that I struggle with this part, but I’m way better at it now than I was 10 years ago.  (Yep, I was THAT guy).

As leaders, we’ll have team members debating different sides of any issue.  We’ll have the really thorough ones arguing for more time, and we’ll have the “ready-fire-aim” folks arguing to just get moving, and figure it out on the way.  We’ll have a firm opinion about something, and then someone in the room will tell us that our opinion is wrong, and theirs is the right way to go.  Be careful not to jump to the position of trying to convince everyone why YOUR idea is right, and at least give the dissenters the respect of listening to them thoroughly before making the call, leader.  Believe it or not, there are different ways to do the same thing successfully, and if you can let your team do it their way, you’ll gain their respect.  Heck, you might even find that they did it better, cheaper or quicker!

Speaking of instant…


Rubes cartoons used with permission.




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