You want people to appreciate you? Give them Pizza

16 03 2016

“The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.” ~William James

Most people want to be appreciated.  Many will act in a way to be liked, even if it’s uncomfortable for them.  They’ll give someone a break, or say something they don’t entirely believe, in order to win approval.  Maybe they don’t say what they‘re thinking, because it’s an unpopular opinion.  On the other hand, maybe they say exactly what they’re thinking, even if it’s unpopular, because they think those around them appreciate honesty.

As leaders, we need to balance that all-too-human need to be appreciated against the need to get stuff done, even if your orders are not popular.  As you interact with your teams, sure I want you to be nice, and approachable.  But, in the end, not too many jobs are ones where people are paid to be liked.  We’re paid to get the job done.  So, be nice, but be firm.  Get the job done, and then celebrate your victories.  Throwing victory pizza parties (within budgetary limits – 🙂 ) to celebrate a big, tough win will help you to be appreciated, too!

Speaking of craving (and pizzas – kudos to Leigh Rubin for making me laugh out loud!)…


Rubes cartoons used with permission.




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